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NYT Relative Choices ~ Adoption & censorship?

New York Times censors adult adoptees on adoption blog
~ Written by Carmen Van Kerckhove / November 13th, 2007 at 2:11 pm

The New York Times started a new blog this month called Relative Choices, about “adoption and the American family.”
The blog has been met with mixed reactions, especially since many prominent thinkers like Jae Ran Kim who are critical of certain adoption practices were deemed to be “too out there” to contribute. Also, the blog has featured some rather questionable posts written by adoptive parents.

OK. I get the 'safe space' for adoptive parents ~ but this isn't supposed to be for the parents, but for everyone. And they have apparently been rejecting some submissions that they feel are not 'right' and censoring comments about some of the submissions they do put up. If this blog is for everyone (?) within the adoption triad why would they object to the perspectives expressed by those adopted as children, now adults, AKA adult adoptees?

Specifically there have been complaints about a humor piece ~ The Real Thing By Tama Janowitz. Or more specifically to one part of her article:

A girlfriend who is now on the waiting list for a child from Ethiopia says that the talk of her adoption group is a recently published book in which many Midwestern Asian adoptees now entering their 30s and 40s complain bitterly about being treated as if they did not come from a different cultural background. They feel that this treatment was an attempt to blot out their differences, and because of this, they resent their adoptive parents.
So in a way it is kind of nice to know as a parent of a child, biological or otherwise – whatever you do is going to be wrong. Like I say to Willow: “Well, you know, if you were still in China you would be working in a factory for 14 hours a day with only limited bathroom breaks!”
And she says — as has been said by children since time immemorial — “So what, I don’t care. I would rather do that than be here anyway.”

Sigh. OK, yes she is being funny, trying to see humor in the age old trans-everything problem of adolescence. And some people are being sensitive. Maybe a few even over sensitive. But when this was first posted, a couple of days ago, a lot of comments were not making it onto the boards that were critical, or found it too close to the bone, unfunny. Some of them now seem to have been added retrospectively, and the thread has now been frozen. Hum. Perhaps I should have used my Drama Llama icon?

What I am glad is that Carmen's blog, racialicious, points to a number of others blogging on this topic, including one I love (and had lost the URL for due to a change of provider), Harlow's Monkey Experiencing the social experiment of transracial and transnational adoption. :)

My I express my bias: I am an adult adoptee, but not transracial even if I feel transnational.